Beth Armstrong

Christian wife, mom, & author. Doing life with my eyes fixed on Jesus. I walk, I stumble, I fall. But God is big. And this is what I write about… Thanks for stopping by!


I wouldn’t necessarily consider myself the sentimental type, but I’m definitely reflective. 2012 has been a year that’s had some definite lessons—ones not taught, but caught. I was not the teacher, but the student. I have learned from my two teenage boys many things this year, but these are the standouts. (Granted, some are tongue-in-cheek of course.)

Here are 12 things my teenagers taught me in 2012:

1)    Failure is not forever — My youngest son was cut from the basketball team one day, but joined the scholar bowl team the next day. My oldest son failed his driver’s test one day, went back and passed the next day. Get back up on the horse, I say! Way to go, guys.

2)    PS3 gaming actually builds community — I’m not completely sold on the idea of spending hours and hours on these things, however, my husband, sons, and I have had a great time together playing a game or two. I think the bonding really comes at my expense, however, because I’m terrible…and they laugh…at me. But there’s much encouragement and cheering that goes on for each other on the few occasions when we’ve all four played together.

3)    I’m not a perfect mother — I have been frequently reminded of this fact throughout the year. Although I don’t care for the reminders, it’s definitely humbling, and centers me upon the fact that I cannot raise kids without the help of the Almighty God. I’m far from perfect, but He is my perfect source for strength and guidance.

4)    Testosterone is not a figment of anyone’s imagination — Oh…my…goodness! That’s all that needs to be said here.

5)    Owning pets to teach kids responsibility is a farce — Now six years into the life of our cat, I still shake my head at the lack of responsibility the boys have taken for her. They love the cat, but not the care-taking part. Who were we fooling when we got her thinking it would assist in teaching responsibility? The joke is definitely on us. Fortunately, we love the cat as well.

6)    Living rooms make pretty good soccer, baseball, and football fields — Honestly, I wouldn’t have it any other way. We don’t have fancy furniture or fragile things in our living room. It tends to be the place where the boys gather to wrestle or play some sport. They rearrange or clear out furniture often. Now that they’re bigger, however, I do worry that one of these times they’ll end up going right through the wall.

7)    Hold on loosely to “stuff,” because if it breaks, it’s still just “stuff” — Things come and go. Things break and get thrown away. There’s far more to life than just “stuff.” Making memories, laughing, enjoying each other’s company, talking about life and the struggles therein, etc.—these are the things we hold on to. This is the stuff that has lasting value.

8)    Simple Math: 2 teenagers + 2 parents watching a 15” TV while laying on a king size bed = family bliss — Seriously! I wouldn’t trade these times for anything. All four of us have piled on our bed and watched the last quarter of a football game, the news or weather report, a suspenseful TV show or comedy. We don’t plan it. It just happens. And it’s wonderful!

9)    It’s not that hard to invite friends to church (you don’t hem and haw about it, you just do it) — Both of my sons have this knack. They don’t consider the invitation to be awkward. They don’t dwell on the “what ifs.” They simply ask their friends to join them. Some do, some don’t. They don’t take it personally. They ask. And they ask again. It’s not rocket science.

10)  Forcing ourselves beyond our comfort zones is far more freeing than it is uncomfortable — I have observed both of my sons this year having to go beyond their comfort zones in various situations. It wasn’t easy for them, but I believe the result was freeing for both of them. The initial discomfort or awkwardness is a small price to pay compared with the freedom and joy of new horizons.

11)  Homemade chocolate chip cookies really do make the world go round — Much loved, and highly requested at my house, these timeless treasures are probably the greatest invention ever. The fulfillment either comes in making them together, licking the beaters, or eating them fresh and hot out of the oven. This may be the only moment when #3 above is incorrect.

12)  Once the initial hurdle is cleared, each subsequent hurdle gets easier and easier — Sometimes all it takes is getting over the proverbial hump. The first hurdle is sometimes treacherous, and comes with lots of kicking and screaming. But once cleared, the next hurdle gets a little easier. In observing my sons this year, this lesson has been a powerful one for me as well.

Let me just say that my teenage sons are far from perfect. There are a lot of days when I’d like to sell them cheap. We certainly don’t have a flawless family. Parenting teenagers is a lot of work. Unfortunately, it’s the season of parenting that is most challenging and many parents simply give up.

But just when we think they’re a lost cause, there’s a glimmer of hope. The reality is that they can actually teach us a thing or two. I’m grateful for what mine have taught me. They have far more lessons to learn than to teach, but in a reflective moment, they’ve caught the attention of this student in the classroom of life.


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9 thoughts on “12 THINGS MY TEENAGERS TAUGHT ME IN 2012

  1. Sarah Sporrer on said:

    This was one of the funniest, most honest, and wholesome reflections on parenting I have ever read. I think your next book should be an elaboration on and continuation of these 12 points!!

  2. Robin Butler on said:

    Good stuff my friend….real talk

  3. Jan Messenger on said:

    What a great way to honor your boys! I wish that I could have read your article when Chris was going through his teen years! The book idea sounds great to me, too, Sarah!

    • Thanks, Jan. I’ll have to have my boys read this post and get their reaction. I’ll let you know what happens… 🙂

      If you can survive raising teenagers and still be sane, then I think I can too. Bless you, my friend!

  4. Bill Pearce on said:

    Yes school goes on and on. Good stuff, thank you.

  5. Deann Calavan Moore on said:

    Touched my heart! I raised 2 boys, now 30 and 26! I can relate to all you said. Such awesome memories this mother will cherish forever! They are both married to God given wives and I have a beautiful 2 year old granddaughter and a grandchild on the way! They continue to teach me to this day! What a blessing they are!

    • Deann,

      Thanks for your comments. I truly admire godly women (even ones I don’t know) who have persevered in raising godly sons. It’s an inspiration to me and w/o knowing it, women like you encourage me to endure the challenging times, keep praying, teaching, modeling, etc. I am constantly reminded, even when parenting is difficult, that God is faithful!

      Thanks again…and may God continue to bless you and your family!

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