I’M NOT YOUR HONEY, SWEETHEART, OR DARLIN’!
Is it just me, or has anyone else noticed the absurd overuse of the so-called “terms of endearment”? Everyday I encounter someone (usually much younger) who addresses me with one of these terms–usually sweetie, honey (or the shortened version “hon”), or dear.
Just this week, when I got my haircut, the gal who checked me in called me “hon” three times. Each time it grated on my nerves like fingernails on a chalkboard. After the third time, I said to her, “It’s Beth.” She just looked at me like she had no idea what I was saying. Perhaps I should have used some “terms of endearment” right back at her and said, “Sweetheart, my name is Beth, and I’d appreciate it, dear, if you could use that instead of hon. Okay, darlin’?”
By definition, a “term of endearment” is a word or phrase used to address a person for which the speaker feels love or affection. How is it that the 16-year-old cashier at the restaurant, grocery store, or fast food place (who insists on calling me honey, hon, sweetie, darlin’, or dear) feels any love or affection for me? (Truth be told, I have a beef with nearly everyone who addresses me this way.) But it especially gets under my skin when the young’uns out there speak to me this way. I’m old enough to be their mother, for Pete’s sake!
Whatever happened to the simple, respectful “Yes, ma’am” or “Thank you, sir”? Can we please go back to the respectful old days?
Sorry for the rant!
Tell me…what kinds of things get under your skin, drive you crazy, or grate on your nerves?